You’re in the right place if you’ve thought, at least once, that you’re crazy for getting into a relationship like this…
Let me assure you, you’re not crazy, but until you figure out who YOU ARE and what you bring to the table… it can certainly feel that way.
Let me ask you…
- How long did it take before you figured out that you’d be going to bed alone? Night after night.
- That you’d be going to family functions/work functions (company Christmas party) by yourself? How do you deal with that?
- Not to mention the partying it up until the morning hours? Dare I say, Drugs/Alcohol/Infidelity?
- What do you tell your friends, who aren’t in this type of relationship… how you ‘make it work’ when you’re never with your other half and are always available to hang out?
- And YOUR dreams.. how do you handle making YOUR dreams come true when they work 60-80 hours a week?
- Having to start your holiday vacation at 11pm at night (or later!) when they get off?
- The times when, after the restaurant closes, you’re excited for them to come home and they call to say their going out for a few beers.
- If you knew that you’d be the only person raising your children while they’re working crazy hours, would you do it again?
… oh, and their only day off is either spent totally crashing from exhaustion, with their restaurant buddies, or off wanting to ‘play’ – instead of spending time with you (ahem…or taking care of their responsibilities)
Trust me, I can go on….
How many times have you found yourself saying “I am not sure I can do this?” when you think of your relationship with your restaurant other half? Whether it’s 5 dates or 5 years in. I mean, you love him/her… that’s not the problem, you just don’t know if you have what it takes to see this thing through to the long haul.
“What if you’ve said to both yourself and your significant other “WHAT ABOUT ME?” and then walked away thinking…
What’s wrong with me? Why am I doing this?
It sure can feel pretty crazy when we’re dealing with any one of these things above (most likely a few of them sound familiar to you) and then add to that the things in our own life that cause us stress, sometimes it can all just be too much.
Especially when there’s no one around who seems to understand.
Well I understand. And you’re not crazy.
I became a coach so you could feel ‘heard, perhaps for the first time in your life, someone who WANTS to listen to what you have to say.
Someone who knows that it can be SO isolating, SO… infuriating to always have to work around their schedule, their availability.
Someone to remind you that this is about YOUR LIFE. You are also entitled to fulfill your dreams and goals and aspirations.
Someone to just be there when you need to vent, or share with someone whats frustrating you.
Someone to CELEBRATE with when something awesome happens and you figure that your restaurant man/woman will not understand. (It’s important to celebrate!)
Someone whos ONLY purpose is to make it ALL ABOUT YOU!!!
So…what is coaching anyway?
Good question. Let me show you a little visual that will help.
You see, therapy takes you from the PAST (where most blocks lies dormant, also called dysfunction) into the PRESENT (where you’re currently functioning). It looks at how the past affects your present. COACHING, on the other hand, takes you from where you are TODAY (THE PRESENT) to where you want to be (THE FUTURE, optimal!). Yes, we might discuss the past in relation to where you are today, but we don’t stay there. (no ma’am!) My ultimate goal is to get you from where you currently are (PRESENT) to where you want to be (FUTURE!).
Alright, how do I do that?
Together, by unlocking the huge metal safe-like door that houses all your dreams, fears and negative beliefs, where what you value most is stored – your precious cargo. That’s why it’s called a ‘safe’, because that’s how it makes you feel. SAFE. Notice I didn’t say HEALTHY, FREE or ALIVE. It’s there that we meet, and with one future goal in mind at a time, look at where you want to BE (successfully married to a chef for eons!) in relation to where you are TODAY (little scared, unsure, etc…)
And how do we do THAT? One step at a time.
As a coach, it’s my job to meet you where YOU are in your life today. I want you to feel safe with me; I know you won’t accomplish much if you don’t feel safe. I know the tools that will get you to where you want to be (shh… they’re INSIDE you.); it’s my job to help you reconnect with them, maybe for the first time in your life.
oh and one important note: it is NOT the coaches job to tell you what to do. Nope.There is no advice given or attempt to ‘fix’ the situation your in. The coaches ONLY job is to stand by you while YOU unlock the safe. I’m there to talk you thru it, but I cannot do it for you. HOW AMAZING has it felt in your life, when you accomplish something yourself, eh?
also, as you work through that precious cargo, your coach will help you moving forward by setting regular tasks, meant to keep the momentum going, and your coach will hold you accountable to meeting those goals. *don’t worry, we’re not talking book reports or anything – unless you WANT to write a book report*
All that sounds good, where do we begin?
This is where I come in. When you’re ready, we would create an alliance, a partnership of sorts. I will be standing on the sidelines, helping you discover where, in your life, you might be blocked, that’s preventing you from fully moving toward your optimal goals and help you iron out those wrinkles.
For example, Say one of the following issues is something that sounds familiar:
“How can I get him/her to understand that our time is precious and I need to be a bigger priority?” – final example,
“My family just doesn’t understand why I am choosing to be with someone in this industry, how can I get them to understand?”
“Why do my restaurant man/woman and I always fight over the SAME topic?” or,
We would work, over the phone, at a schedule that we set together based on how fast you want to see results. Since there is a monthly financial obligation to our partnership, I recommend you test it out for yourself. (A ‘tasting’ perhaps?) Be my guest! Sign up to schedule a 30 minute consultation with me (fill out the form at the bottom of the page), and come away with ONE action step to take within 7 days, that will show you that you DO have what it takes to make it in this type of relationship (and even if you’ve discovered that you can’t, together we can figure out where you go from here.)
I mean, WHAT is the alternative?
*and…doesn’t it help to already know that I’m already in your shoes! How bout that for a bonus!
About that financial obligation, how much does this cost?
Currently, I charge $300/month. This includes (2) – 60 minute calls. I record all of our calls and will send you the recordings each month so you can go back and listen to how AMAZING you are and the heavy stuff you’re working on. On our off week, I will initiate a “Check in” email, because I want to know how you’re doing when you’re on your own (I ask that you always respond to my email, so I know how you’re doing) I also include UNLIMITED email support (If you need me at any time of the day, I promise to get back to you within 12-24 hours.
I offer a sliding scale. We can arrange to talk more or less depending on how often you want to chat. (or how much you want to spend)
AND… for those busy bees out there, I offer an email coaching service. For $150/month, we’ll basically have a coaching session via email (up to 4 emails a month from me) That way you can read the questions… and get that accountability that might help keep you moving forward. If you’ve been reading, you know I’m pretty much a chatty Cathy… so you’ll have that to look forward to when receiving an email from me.
Finally, I require a 3 month commitment. The reason why I do that is because it takes a bit of time for us to create forward momentum ENOUGH so that YOU can see a difference in the goals and dreams that you want to work on. At the end of three months, you can then decide to move forward with me, or not.
How does that sound to you?
When you’re ready to achieve lift off, and are willing to come to the table with a willingness to unlock and look what’s in the safe (I mean, HOW BAD do you want it?); the exercises I have are going to assist you in finding what you’re looking for most.
THAT I can assure you.